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what would you do when you find out that your husband give money to his ex-wife?
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JDJ&J asked:
in addition to monthly child support. I love my husband very much. and he admitted that he make a stupid mistake without thinking. He were just feeling like helping people that’s all.
Winning Back Your Ex
in addition to monthly child support. I love my husband very much. and he admitted that he make a stupid mistake without thinking. He were just feeling like helping people that’s all.
Winning Back Your Ex
13 Comments
January 20th, 2010 at 7:26 am
find out how much and why ?
January 20th, 2010 at 7:45 pm
I would ask him why he gave her the money. If it were a legitimate reason, for the kids, then I would have no problem with that.
If she needed the money for something else, I would ask that next time he discuss it with me before shelling out our hard earned income.
January 21st, 2010 at 4:35 pm
He should have asked you first, but I don’t think it’s a problem since she obviously has his kid(s). Kids come first.
January 24th, 2010 at 2:49 am
She’s the mother of his child/children and, being a good man, doesn’t want to see her suffer.
January 24th, 2010 at 5:36 am
Sounds like hes just a good guy and you should claim his as a keeper.
January 25th, 2010 at 4:47 pm
If that’s all than why didn’t he discuss it with you? After all you’re his wife and the decisions that he makes affects you too.
January 26th, 2010 at 10:51 pm
FIND OUT HOW MUCH AND HOW OFTEN. If he is just giving her money because she is asking that is not acceptable and you should put a stop to it immediately. If she is already getting monthly payments from him then she should not be calling on a regular basis for money…
January 27th, 2010 at 4:53 am
ya, i mean if hes doin it jus to be nice and help her out, theres nothing wrong with that. my mom and dad are both remarried, they got along way better after being married, my step dad and my dad get along really well. and my mom and dad i think would always help eachother out if one or the other needed it. but just talk to him about it.
January 28th, 2010 at 5:22 am
if i found my ex wife on lower Wacker Ave, homeless and begging for food, I’d give her some money… wait, nahhhh, I’d laugh at her, then, I’d take pictures and post it all over Facebook. lol.
January 29th, 2010 at 3:04 am
I see where there are children involved. I would hope he gave it to her to help make the life style of the kids better. Or just help he out of a bad situation. You can’t divorce someone and cut off any and all memories. I think it’s good that he can still help is he is able. and you should allow this also. If the shoe was on your foot and your ex needed some help would you help? I would hope so if your able. So many when they get a divorce replace the love with **** and bitterness I hope this could come to a end. Its so much better to try and get along. This does not mean he is still in love with her but that she needed so help. Talk it out with him and find the true reason prior to building up anger. You could find out it was no harm meant. Good luck and remember he is married to you and not her. So he must love you.
January 29th, 2010 at 4:41 pm
Any money that your husband gives to his ex to help her in the long run benefits the kids. The kids aren’t happy if their mother is totally stressed out over money. If it isn’t a drain on your budget, good for him.
February 1st, 2010 at 4:51 am
Yes, I would. Everyone’s situation is different though.
February 3rd, 2010 at 6:46 am
If there is kids involved i just think its really sweet of him, this Christmas my bf bought a necklace to his ex, well he paid for it and the kids gave it to her… but we all knew that he paid for it…. He did that because she lost her job… and he knew that her new part time job would not be so much !!! so he though of this sweet thing to do… and i think you need to have a real big heart to do so…