av1141 asked:


i’ve been with this girl for 5 and a half years and we broke up. just two months ago but now i realize that i really miss her and care for her. we broke up because she said that she is really tired of the way we are. She said that we are two different people and we have a lots of fight. but all those fights are small and we broke up. at first we didn’t even keep contact but now we started to talk like once every two weeks and i’ve always told her that i would wait for her until she change her mind. so i need some advice of what to do.

Winning Back Your Ex

pia asked:


My boyfriend and i just split up just over a month ago but i am still so in love with him. We’ve been together for 3 years, and we’ve been through so many bad things like him sleeping with my best friend, but i’ve been able to forgive him for that.

When we were breaking up, he told me that he thought i was still punishing him for what he did to me all those years ago, but i don’t believe i have. I was getting through it and i loved him too much to let him go. but now he’s gone, and he said that he loves me so much more than anything but he just can’t handle me and my temper. its been a month since we’ve spoken, i want to give him time, and let him breathe a bit, but over the holidays, people have been pestering him about it and he hasn’t really had enough time to think. He said to my friend that i will never be able to change and that i will never be able to forgive him. Understandably, i know that i have a bad temper, but i don’t go psycho for no reason.

i’m thinking of not talking to him for around 3-6 months to let him grow and mature a bit. but how long do you think is too long for him to think about this? i don’t want to wait around forever for him. i am so in love with him, how do i show him that i have changed? how do i show him that i’m not a horrible person that has a really hot temper? i just don’t understand how he can just say that he loves me so much more than anything, but he just does this? he even kissed me when we were breaking up, but i had to be the one to stop it. he’s sending so many confusing signals! i don’t understand. he was hugging me, and also told me that he doesn’t know how he can love anything more than he loves me, but he just can’t be with me. he doesn’t think i can change, but when something big like this happens, you just feel that you need to change, because its not alright to treat people like that. I know i can be a horrible ***** to him, but he’s not exactly sunshine either. when you love someone, its unconditional, and i am able to see through his faults. how do i make him forgive me and trust that i won’t be that horrible person i was a month ago.

i was also talking to a friend, and she said that he’s happy with the way things are currently because he needs time to define himself in the world, but how much time do i give him? i feel so horrible, and i love him and i want to be with him because i love him, not because i want a relationship. i am so in love with him. i feel like, 3 years means nothing to him, because he’s stopped all contact and it just seems like i mean nothing to him now. i gave 100% in this, and it’s like he only gave 20%.
i understand that i have some growing up to do aswell, i never said that i didn’t. i’m only young, but i feel that this guy and i have such a special connection and i don’t know what my life would be like without him. i just want him to trust that i am trying to change and make myself a better person.

Winning Back Your Ex

bjmarchini asked:


I divorced my ex-wife about 8 years ago. To make a long story short, she left me 6 months after she graduated from nursing school, 3 months into my return to school to get my degree, had an affair at work, got pregnant by him and eventually married him to year later.

To make matter worse, we have two kids which we both care for dearly and have worked well enough together for them. Still…. she is a “typical” ex-wife that people complain about. I have my kids 3 days and she has them 4. I was really bitter for awhile as I put her through school and she dumped me after I returned (7 year marriage).

My kids are now 12&14.

Her new husband (married 6.5 years) was thrown out. The kids told me it was because of excessive drinking and not making enough (saving enough money). I kinda empathise for the guy. He just finished trucking school this year past year. She is really tough on people, and pretty self centered IMO. My first reaction internally was maybe she drove him to drink (lol) although I would never mention that to my kids. It really is too much of my business though my kids are involved. This has been building for a while now and it doesn’t shock me.

I made sure my kids new that I supported them through this and that they could always fall back on me if they needed. I would love to have the kids all week, but it wouldn’t be fair to the ex (not that she would do the same as she always tries to wittle away at my time with them). I imagine her life is going to upheave as she is one of those that lives paycheck to paycheck with bad credit making 70K per year by herself.

I personally save and have very good credit (make about 55 per year without a degree – had to drop out to support my kids – 750/month CS plus extras).

I must admit that a small, very small part of me had the though of reuniting after all these years. She was very emotionally abusive, but I am sure I still have some feelings for her.
he has two more kids with her. apparrently his parents were abusive drunks which I guess would explain the alcohol.

Winning Back Your Ex