Carrie asked:


I badly need some advice on my situation. I recently realized that I do still have feelings for my ex. We have a child together. We have not really been a “couple” for some time now, though we still lived together since financially it made sense, and it was better for our child. This summer he moved out though, and though he wasn’t trying to find someone to date, he met someone and they are seeing each other and really like each other. In the time we have spent living apart, I have done a lot of thinking and realized how badly I treated him and a lot of areas where I went wrong. It wasn’t all me, but I can now admit to the problems I had and how stubborn I was. I can see how I need to change. With that realization also came the realization that I still have feelings for my ex. I thought things were over and that I could move on, but obviously that isn’t the case. I’m shocked to discover how I feel, I really didn’t think I would feel this way. It’s also really bad timing, because now he is seeing someone else. I have told him how I feel, and he listened to what I had to say. But, he said he felt that things were over between us a long time ago, which is why he moved on. We both said hurtful things and argued and thought that it was over back then. He really likes this new girl and would like to see where things go with that relationship. I can’t really argue with that, because I pushed him away, things were over, and he had every right to find someone else. I think that if he wasn’t seeing this girl he would maybe be more open to what I was saying, but the fact that he is in another relationship really complicates things. I’m really confused about how I feel and what I should do. Do I wait to see if his new relationship lasts? What can I do to win him back? I don’t know if I have any chance, and I certainly know I don’t deserve one. Has anyone else been in this situation that can offer some advice?

Winning Back Your Ex