synergie_hfx asked:


Okay so someone sent me an ebook to read… about how to win back an ex. It describes how everyone in the face of being dumped, automatically do ‘expected’ things because of the hurt and rejection. These turn out to be the opposite of what people should do… Instead of feeling hurt and trying to show their ex that they care and are hurting, they should instead stop all contact with them immediately (for at least 3-4 weeks) – this is because the negative aspects of the relationship will have been forgotten and then the ‘missing’ kicks in as they remember the good things. It says not to contact them under any circumstances before 3-4 weeks. If they contact you its ok. The whole idea about this book is that you can reverse the rejection so that they feel it instead. And something to do with push vs pull. If you wallow after a breakup it pushes them further away but if you reject the dumper, then they are supposed to try and pull you back?? Especially if they see you moving on with your life and possibly dating others (it says delete their number and all contact info except for Facebook or MSN because you can use those to put status updates that your ex will see that can help – nothing trashy that would make you look like a **** but things like “Out with So and So tonight be back later” )

Anyway, does this tactic work at all? Any better than trying to maintain contact?

I was with a guy who was very shy and things went well until recently, then he became distant and finally decided to leave. He still wanted to be friends but I knew that would be too difficult so I said no. Now, I *think* that he maybe got scared or that since he was shy I might have pushed things a bit too fast… but at first HE did the chasing!! All of it!! So if I try this tatcic will it reverse everything so he might do the chasing again? I am a bit leery of trying the reverse of everything my heart is telling me to do! It’s very hard to stop all contact!! But I dont want to be his friend… I want to be more!

I know that there is no 100% guarantee but just wondering if this tactic works better than what most people do (showing they are hurt, trying to make the ex feel guilty, etc)??? Guys in particular??

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Jenny asked:


Guys, if your a player and you broked up with your girlfriend what does she have to do to win your heart again. Be real, he says that he dosent like her anymore….by the way this question is not for me. Sooo players that are reading what does your ex have to do to get you to like her and get you to actually love her? Especially if he only cares about the looks and if he has a girlfriend.Thanks 10 points to the best answer.!!!

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Catma asked:


I’ve recently been talking on the phone with my ex-wife, we sometimes talk for two or more hours. She’s thirty eight,I’m forty one. When we were married we had the the best of times together, Everything was great until she came to the realization that her need to have a child was greater than the Love that we Shared. She knew before we were married that I wasn’t able to have children but it wasn’t a problem then. She was completely honest with me about her reason for wanting to separate, I was crushed and I feel that it hurt her deeply too. She broke my heart. It’s been seven years since we’ve been apart. She’s single now and has a five year old daughter and has come back into my Life. It feels like we are falling in Love again or like we have never been apart. I almost don’t know how to feel. I’m Torn.Could you please give me some of your thoughts on this?

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NYCPrincess asked:


Everytime he see’s his children from the ex-wife I see that his heart misses his family. She has a live in man and they only speak when it comes to the children. Should I let his go until he is ready to fully submit to me or should I hold tight and let him go through this emotional rollercoaster. He says he doesn’t want to be with his ex-wife, but when he see’s his kid’s he misses his family. HELP!!!!!! What do I do?

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Nikki asked:


Recently my boyfriend and I broke up after me discovering he was spending time with another girl in our townhome while I was out of town. On my way back into town my apartment manager called me to ask if I wanted to add another girl to my lease. At first I thought it could be friends of ours crashing the night. I was picking up signs, he was hiding his phone, resisted *** after six weeks apart and even had a couldn’t care less attitude. That night in bed his phone rang. I answered in case it was an emergency, only to have one of his co-workers answers to say she loved him. My heart sank. So I moved into our other bedroom and spent the week as a recluse, neighbors told me more and encouraged me. I was so lifted by all the support I received. I have now been at my Dad’s home away for several weeks spending time with family and have moved on. I am worth SO much more. I agreed we had issues to talk through but how he approached it, was not what I want from a partner. I still to this day do not know if it was sexual or not, I’ve not been thinking about it, although it’s obvious. I have been doing well, have been introduced to some new guy friends and although am not ready for something serious, am ready for that affection which lacked in my past relationship. I WANT to move on. Here’s my problem, my ex won’t move out! We are in a lease until next April and it technically my place as I’ve furnished it and lived there much longer, also I DON’T want to leave, but seeing him makes me angry, sad and unable to move on. How can I get him to move out?! I want to prove to him my life is happy without him, and now find it weird leaving the house to go meet new friends, when I know he’s watching MY cable. Any suggestions PLEASE!

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fourdimples asked:


miserable to see your ex with someone else want to do something write what you would do to get him back

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Kevin K asked:


ok here is what happened it was sort of my fault but not cause she broke up with me cause things were moving too fast but i felt things should slow down and so did she but i never told her how i felt and she cracked under the pressure and left me now she doesn’t even want to talk to me what should i do help me?

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Manhattan Village asked:


how can i win my ex girlfriend back after treating her badly for so many years. i want to prove to her that im a changed man.

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Kevin K asked:


ok here is what happened it was sort of my fault but not cause she broke up with me cause things were moving too fast but i felt things should slow down and so did she but i never told her how i felt and she cracked under the pressure and left me now she doesn’t even want to talk to me what should i do help me?

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Manhattan Village asked:


how can i win my ex girlfriend back after treating her badly for so many years. i want to prove to her that im a changed man.

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