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My ex-wife is trying to collect back child support to a time when we’re still married. What can I do?
ByJMc asked:
Divorce filed 9-06, final 12-06. Although a court doc says we’re separated 9-06, we actually continued to live together until 2-08. However DSHS is trying to collect child support back to 9-06, and the ex won’t tell the truth about when I actually moved out. Also I can’t afford a lawyer. Advise please?!?!
For those that are wondering, yes I was hlping support the whole house hold, gorceries, gas, $1,600 mortgage paid by me! I’ve only been out of work since Summer, and have some potentials coming up. I’m not a dead beat Dad, just down on my luck right now. And she’s trying to ***** me over!
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Divorce filed 9-06, final 12-06. Although a court doc says we’re separated 9-06, we actually continued to live together until 2-08. However DSHS is trying to collect child support back to 9-06, and the ex won’t tell the truth about when I actually moved out. Also I can’t afford a lawyer. Advise please?!?!
For those that are wondering, yes I was hlping support the whole house hold, gorceries, gas, $1,600 mortgage paid by me! I’ve only been out of work since Summer, and have some potentials coming up. I’m not a dead beat Dad, just down on my luck right now. And she’s trying to ***** me over!
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18 Comments
October 31st, 2009 at 4:20 pm
get a lawyer
November 3rd, 2009 at 8:56 pm
No like all those other deadbeat dads. Don’t pay her a cent
November 5th, 2009 at 4:07 am
i agree with him^
November 7th, 2009 at 2:28 am
she can only get support form when she filed her order of support not from when she feels like
November 9th, 2009 at 9:56 am
look if you 2 lived together and you can prove it she has no case child support is for a broke up family where the parents are not together anymore and one parent has the kid full time
November 12th, 2009 at 8:45 am
You need actual evidence that you were still living there. Utility bills with your name on it, mail being sent there, or testimony of credible people who knew you were living there, and have personal knowledge of that. See if your area has a legal self-help center (usually at the courthouse). You’ll need a hearing on child support at court to present your evidence.
November 15th, 2009 at 1:57 am
Exorcism
Get a young priest and an old priest.
Maybe then she won’t be so damn evil.
November 17th, 2009 at 5:43 pm
If you can’t afford a lawyer, you probably need to find proof that you both we’re still living together. Bills that we’re paid by her or even you for the same residence, phone records, mail? Something that you can use that shows you both lived together until a certain point in time. They won’t just take your word over hers so you need some type of proof. If there is no way for you to prove that and you don’t have a lawyer, then you’re probably screwed unfortunately.
November 20th, 2009 at 4:25 pm
If you have any paper work showing that you were there such as, bills, rent, mortgage, and maybe take a witness with you when you go to court. If you signed a lease on a new place take that with you. If you moved in with someone ask them to go.
November 20th, 2009 at 4:43 pm
The Friend of the Court where you pay your child support handles these matters, call or write for an appointment. however they tend to be on the side of the woman. If you want the child to love you in later years then keep up with your payments.
November 21st, 2009 at 3:56 am
Just curious, although you were living together were you paying any bills and supporting your children, or were you just living there?
November 22nd, 2009 at 6:51 pm
Hate to tell you this, but I’m speaking from personal experience.
Bend over and grab your ankles, cuz even with a lawyer your still screwed.
November 24th, 2009 at 9:23 pm
Bite the bullet and get a lawyer! Either that or get screwed in court. (You might get screwed anyway, but at least you’ll be able to blame him and possibly not have to pay)
Get as many witnesses as you can that knew you were still living with her until 2/08 for court. If you don’t, she will win.
November 26th, 2009 at 9:29 pm
A lawyer is going to be cheaper then paying all that back support……..you don’t have any pictures of you two at home during that time or something like that, maybe a friend can testify, heck, did your neighbors or the mailman see you living there? Get creative
November 29th, 2009 at 11:42 pm
your previous income tax forms will show you were supporting the family when you were married.
November 30th, 2009 at 3:12 am
you can you show proof that you still lived with your ex and paid expense while you were under her roof? i would talk to the case worker in DSHS and explain this to them.then ask if you can get a court appointed lawyer to help you with this.they should be able to let you know what you can do.
December 1st, 2009 at 9:22 am
Why does the court document state that particular separation date? Did you sign it? If you did, then you may be stuck. They are legal documents if done properly. If it’s just a date she made-up, then protest the actual separation date in court. Be prepared to present evidence to support your claim, like utility bills, receipts, check stubs, bank statements, sworn testamony of 3rd parties, your paystubs showing your address at that time. If she is not telling the truth then PROVE it to the judge or the support agency. Inform her that you have absolute evidence to support the truth & you are prepared to file counter-charges against her for false testimony if that is applicable. Also, if you are out of work for something you did not cause, then your income is reduced & you should be eligible for a reduction on the support order. Best of luck to you. Guys like you should be PROUD. There are so many men who just walk away from their kids. My son could tell you all about how much it hurts. He is grown now & vows never to do that to his future kids.
December 4th, 2009 at 3:05 am
Why did you continue to live together for two more years???- geeze!
You needed to protect yourself by saving reciepts,signatures on checks, bills and all the paper work..but since you probably didn’t contact a local Father’s Rights group either on-line or in your area and get some free advice from them.