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getting back with my ex-wife?,
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Phillyfreedom asked:
My ex wife and I split a little over a year ago. She was dealing with alot of issues, substance abuse, bi polar. We officially were divorced in dec of 08. We have 2 children i have sole legal and physical custody of. Over the past few months, we have hung out on the weekends, she seems to have her issues behind her. we have been tinkering the thought of getting back together. We both have dated and she is still dating someone else. she is ready to leave, and come back, and wants to work on a future with her family (meaning the kids and I). She has agreed to go to family therapy, i do love her, and we have maintained a physical relationship, as well as dated basically for about 6 months now. just looking for some feedback
Winning Back Your Ex
My ex wife and I split a little over a year ago. She was dealing with alot of issues, substance abuse, bi polar. We officially were divorced in dec of 08. We have 2 children i have sole legal and physical custody of. Over the past few months, we have hung out on the weekends, she seems to have her issues behind her. we have been tinkering the thought of getting back together. We both have dated and she is still dating someone else. she is ready to leave, and come back, and wants to work on a future with her family (meaning the kids and I). She has agreed to go to family therapy, i do love her, and we have maintained a physical relationship, as well as dated basically for about 6 months now. just looking for some feedback
Winning Back Your Ex
6 Comments
January 21st, 2010 at 10:02 am
It will never work, man. You were seeing her while she was seeing someone else? I hope you were not having ***.
You will always think of her being with another man (and she might think of you with someone else too). It will always be an issue and will cause fights.
You are divorced, just move on. It’s what’s best.
January 22nd, 2010 at 10:20 pm
So you’re okay with her screwing you and then going back to her boyfriend? I would say that’s a flaw that needs to be addressed just as much as the substance abuse and bi-polar.
Before you do anything drastic, I would be 100% positive, no doubts what-so-ever, that she can be what you personally need and want in a woman.
January 24th, 2010 at 6:16 pm
Was the bi-polar & substance abuse the reason you two got divorced to begin with? Were there any other reasons? Just curious! If not & if she’s gotten herself together, I say go for it! I would just make sure she’s sober & that she’s on medication for her bi-polar disorder. Other than that, if she’s agreed to go to family therapy & you’ve been dating for six months now & things are going well, I don’t see any problem!
I hope things work out for you!
EDIT:
The two people before me brought up her seeing somebody else. I wasn’t thinking about it in a boyfriend/girlfriend way but, as more of a casually dating but, not commited relationship sort of thing. If the other two are right, I’d probably be a bit more cautious about getting back together with her. But, if you’ve both been dating around & not getting too serious with anybody in particular, then I don’t see anything wrong.
January 25th, 2010 at 5:58 pm
I know it sounds old school but do it …for the kids and if your happy with her for yourself.But be there for her if she should try to go back to her old ways.Shes fine now but its still a work in progress.best wishes!
January 27th, 2010 at 12:34 am
Have you worked on your issues too? Isn’t this an ideal scenario? If you want to give things another try, this seems like the best time. You are obviously still attracted to each other if you’re spending time together and physically intimate. I think that you should make a decision and stick with it. I can’t imagine how confusing all of this must be for your children.
January 28th, 2010 at 5:59 pm
Ok so she hasn’t been cheating on you so to speak, but you were both seeing each other whilst seeing other people? If I am correct and I think I a, then fair enough you both did the same thing.
She is the mother of your children and and obviously been very ill, I know because my girlfriend has the same disorder, but she has it under control, and her husband is great, and no I promise it’s not me..lol.
If you know she is doing well and is coping better then I say go to it, after all you have both been through enough.
Best ofluck.