These days the divorce rate is on the rise. In some societies, as many as 50% of couples get divorced. Many people see divorce as the ultimate end of a marriage. But is it really? I don’t think so. As long as your ex-wife has not remarried, there is still hope in getting your ex back. In fact, in some ways it is easier to get your ex-wife back than to get your ex-girlfriend back. That is because of the hassle in going through a formal divorce and all that goes with it such as custody of children, division of property, child support and alimony etc. These matters can either work for or against you getting your ex-wife back.
So what can you do to get your ex-wife back?
First of all, do not be in a rush to get your ex-wife back. Whatever the causes of the breakup were, it is important to give yourselves some time and space to evaluate things so that you do not do anything out of impulse. Take about a month to ‘cool off’. During this time, you should think about your marriage and what it meant to you. This is also a good time to evaluate yourself and make some changes. When you eventually get back together with your ex, you don’t want her to get back the same old you, right? Before even thinking about getting your ex-wife back, you must get your own act together. Whatever your fault was that led to your breakup, you need to change or rectify it.
Only after a month of self-evaluation and personal changes should you make steps to get your ex-wife back. When the time is right, you can contact your ex-wife and ask her out for a casual date. Don’t make it a formal one, just stick to doing something fun and casual together. The purpose is to help her see the changes in you and get used to being with you again. Take this opportunity to make it a memorable occasion. Do something that you used to enjoy doing together without being too pushy or intrusive. You must not present the impression that you’re desperate to get her back (even if you are). Just focus on having fun and engaging in some light conversation together.
After this first date, don’t be in a rush to arrange the second one. Remember, don’t appear desperate. Let a week or two pass before contacting her again to ask for another time out together. Once you get your ex-wife to agree to see you again, repeat the same modus operandi of having a fun and memorable time together.
Keep this up for a few months and gradually work towards talking about whether you should get back together again. But this has to happen naturally when both of you are ready to talk about it. If you bring up the subject and you get a negative reaction from your ex, it means you have gone into it too soon. Back up and start over. Your ex-wife needs time to get the idea of being together with you again.
It is not impossible to win your ex-wife back even after a divorce or separation. It would take time, but if you play your cards right, you will have warmed up your ex-wife over a period of months to the idea of a reconciliation. Then you can talk about more serious stuff like the future and all that pertains to it. If that happens, you are well on the road to getting back together with your ex-wife.