Does the ‘Reverse Rejection’ Tactic work to win back an ex. really?
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Okay so someone sent me an ebook to read… about how to win back an ex. It describes how everyone in the face of being dumped, automatically do ‘expected’ things because of the hurt and rejection. These turn out to be the opposite of what people should do… Instead of feeling hurt and trying to show their ex that they care and are hurting, they should instead stop all contact with them immediately (for at least 3-4 weeks) – this is because the negative aspects of the relationship will have been forgotten and then the ‘missing’ kicks in as they remember the good things. It says not to contact them under any circumstances before 3-4 weeks. If they contact you its ok. The whole idea about this book is that you can reverse the rejection so that they feel it instead. And something to do with push vs pull. If you wallow after a breakup it pushes them further away but if you reject the dumper, then they are supposed to try and pull you back?? Especially if they see you moving on with your life and possibly dating others (it says delete their number and all contact info except for Facebook or MSN because you can use those to put status updates that your ex will see that can help – nothing trashy that would make you look like a **** but things like “Out with So and So tonight be back later” )
Anyway, does this tactic work at all? Any better than trying to maintain contact?
I was with a guy who was very shy and things went well until recently, then he became distant and finally decided to leave. He still wanted to be friends but I knew that would be too difficult so I said no. Now, I *think* that he maybe got scared or that since he was shy I might have pushed things a bit too fast… but at first HE did the chasing!! All of it!! So if I try this tatcic will it reverse everything so he might do the chasing again? I am a bit leery of trying the reverse of everything my heart is telling me to do! It’s very hard to stop all contact!! But I dont want to be his friend… I want to be more!
I know that there is no 100% guarantee but just wondering if this tactic works better than what most people do (showing they are hurt, trying to make the ex feel guilty, etc)??? Guys in particular??
Winning Back Your Ex
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February 26th, 2010 at 3:53 am
Well synergie, I am surprised where is that synergie asking the questions on spiritual and religion. But I can well understand your situation, as I have gone through all you write about you and that guy.
The answer of your question is that you are quite right, generally people do reverse rejection to win back the ex. You must try this tactic and I hope you will see the results in a short span of time. But this depends on what were your dialogues in last few meetings. If he has made a distance with you gradually using the delay tactics in every thing, it means he has left you after intellectual thoughts to get away from you. In such a position your reverse rejection will take a more time but it will be sure to come back the ex. But if there was a dispute and confrontation and unwanted dialogues it would not be so easy. Such a break in the relation is not restated like a broken thread can not be joined back and if joined there is a knot in between the two segments.
Lastly I pray to my Lord for and early back of your ex so that we may also get back our old synergie.